One of the primary and most dynamic residence hall relationships exists between roommates. This relationship will require personal adjustments in learning to live with another person in a limited space. Roommate/suitemates/apartment mates must give continual attention and care to relationships in order to make living arrangements work.
Living successfully with a roommate requires flexibility, respect and the willingness to openly and honestly communicate. The following are basic levels of respect roommates should show each other:
- the right to undisturbed sleep,
- the ability to study in your room free of unreasonable noise and distraction,
- the ability to get into your room at all times,
- security against physical or emotional harm,
- a clean and safe environment,
- privacy in the room, and
- security and respect for your belongings.
If students are having roommate problems, they should first have a frank discussion with roommate(s) to express their feelings and seek a solution that is amenable to all. If communication and compromise are unsuccessful, they should consider involving a third person who can listen objectively to each roommate and assist in reaching a satisfactory solution. A proctor is a good person to facilitate this mediation. The Assistant Dean for Residential Life (ADRL) Michael Edwards, or any member of the DOS staff, is also available to help negotiate a solution.
- First-year students may change rooms after the second week of class (beginning Monday, Sept. 15, 2013). The reason for this “freeze” is to allow time to work through initial impressions and difficulties before deciding that the pairing simply won’t work. Upperclass students may change rooms at any time. The major restriction for upperclass moves is on changes that provide an advantage that the person would have been unable to gain during room draw. Intra-suite room swaps and moves to open spaces are fine, as long as they are cleared with the CLC as noted below. Mutually agreeable, inter-suite swaps need to be reviewed by DAC, but are possible. Room changes that create gender- neutral rooms are possible, but must be agreeable to everyone in the suite.
- Students wanting to change rooms should contact Michael Edwards, the Campus Life Coordinator (CLC). The CLC will show the person all available spaces on campus. Any unfilled space is available for any HMC student to move into. The person wanting to move will then need to contact the potential roommates (and/or suitemates, if appropriate) to inform them of his/her interest in moving to the open space. If everyone is agreeable, then the CLC will make the move official and authorize the exchange of keys with F&M.
- People with single doubles or any open space should anticipate that someone may move into the empty space in their room at any time. They may not reject potential roommates to preserve the extra space for themselves. If they feel that a potential roommate is someone they would truly not be able to live with, they should honestly tell the person why living with them will not work. In any case, the advantage for room selection will go to the person seeking to move into an empty space. Given our ongoing tight housing situation and equal room pricing, people with single doubles may not buy out the extra space for themselves. Additionally, the College retains the option to consolidate people living in single doubles when necessary.
- Students must not switch rooms without consulting with the ADRL first. Room changes that contradict DAC-established room draw regulations or College policies will not be approved by the ADRL. Unauthorized room changes will be referred to the DAC for resolution. Possible outcomes include, but are not limited to, a $50 fine, restoring the original assignment and/or referral to the Disciplinary or Judiciary Board (DB/JB). Under extraordinary circumstances, the College may change room assignments in the interest of health or general welfare of the residents or community.